There’s only one side women are meant to stand, and that side is up! Don’t take away their dance independence. You should lead, but leading doesn’t mean taking control of someone, it’s more like suggesting the next move in that journey of two!
Followers should definitely keep their free will to choose what they want to do, and if you’re trowing them around or „turning upside down“ by putting them in positions that take away their right to choose you might be taking it away… This also means you should adjust to the level of your follower partner. Don’t make her do „impossible combinations“ just because you feel like doing it! What she feels about these combinations also counts – so listen carefully, and you just might hear the voice of her hart! =)