Leading is INDICATION! It is a hint and an invite that you would LIKE IF your partner would go the way you SUGGESTED her. Please do not force your partner to do what you want without ASKING (with the lead) first. Also, don’t bring her arms/legs/anything into positions that feel awkward or unnatural. Be a gentleman, be kind, ask and you will be given. Ladies like to follow and there’s no need to insist. Hint: Leaders often force the lead if they feel like slipping out of the beat. If something like that happens, please – SKIP A BEAT! – don’t try to catch the slipping beat under any price.