HE DOESN’T MAKE HER FEEL SAFE
When you dance with a woman, she expects you to take care of her and not lead her into dangerous territory or oncoming traffic. While she’s not simply passenger on this ride, as the leader, you’re in charge of the “moves” as well as her safe navigation through the jungle of dancers. When you lead her into other people, you’re not protecting her. So instead of enjoying the dance, she’s in defence mode protecting herself since you aren’t. This is one easy way to lose her trust. You can even make bystanders nervous when they stand or dance near you. If you’re that guy who constantly (and unapologetically) bumps into other people or sling shots your partner into everyone in her path, that’s just scary. The moral of the story here… pay attention, protect her and manage your space!
IT HURTS TO DANCE WITH HIM
Not smiling/looking bored out of your mind: No one wants to feel like you’re doing them a favour by dancing with you. If you’re having a fun dance, why not crack a smile every now and then?
Solo dancing: Generally speaking, salsa is a partner dance. We’ve all been there before – you’re in love with a song and you just want to get down. If your partner can’t groove with you, you decide to just disengage so you can enjoy the dance for yourself. Don’t leave her stranded. Partner dancing is a conversation, remember?
OCTAPUS ARMS (UNSOLICITED GROPING)
Guys, we hope that this list gives you some useful insight! Great leaders are awesome not just because of their technical and artistic ability, but also their spacial awareness and their talent for communicating with their partners without being forceful. And that extra special something….they project an attitude that is confident yet warm, gracious and humble. This is a winning combo that women cannot resist. Let’s keep making great experiences on the dance floor!A huge thank you to all the ladies who contributed to this list 🙂 Did we miss any? Comment below!
Caryl Cuizon, iFreeStyle.ca Co-founder